030 | Spontaneous Dad Adventures with Ben Killoy

Creating memories with your kids comes from being and doing, not from more work.

Ordinary Sherpa is designed to inspire families to connect through adventure.  Connection being paramount as many working families are pulled in a million different directions.  And while many of us are striving for the American Dream, it’s easy to lose sight of the simple everyday things that make family memories.  My guest today recognized this as he was doing all the things to align with the American Dream, but in 2014  he left college after transitioning out of the military reconnecting with a love of leadership and desire to become a better husband and dad.  He launched the Military Veteran Dad in 2019 and is now a stay-at-home dad, coaching and spending quality time with his family while still working hard to help others.  Ben and I met through a mastermind community and immediately connected over the demands on parents in 2020.  Ben Killoy is a Marine Veteran, speaker, coach with a focus on allowing dads to step into their best life. 

To connect with Ben Killoy         

Website: benkilloy.comfreedadcourse.com
Podcasts: Military Veteran Dad and The Business of Fatherhood
Facebook: fb.me/Benjamin.killoy
Instagram: @ben_killoy
Twitter: @benkilloy

Key Takeaways

  1. Stop playing chicken.  Sometimes you need to make the first move and simply say Hi.  As we emerge from the pandemic and interact with others, don’t overthink a simple hello.  Be willing to take the first step into an uncomfortable adventure of connecting with others at the park.  
  2. How you lead your own life will set the bar for your child’s expectations in life. You can create a lot of freedom and growth that prepares both you and your child for a stronger life.
  3. Bedtime talk is a way to do small things like tell jokes and tell stories with your kids. “I’m practicing being there for the small things so that later in life she’ll bring me the big things.”
  4. Anchor memories create common experiences for kids to reflect back “What would dad do?” Most of these experiences come from doing and being, it doesn’t come from a lot of work.  
  5. Adventure hack: Find an ice cream shop an hour away and point the car in that direction.  Maybe empty the garage into the car and be ready for whatever else shows up along the way.  Or find a paved path and start your scooter adventures.  
  6. Ben thought he was the worst ski instructor, but remembered kids are looking to be led by their parents, whether it be adventure or a lesson. Perfection is usually what messes up that moment. Your kids don’t want or even know what perfect is, they just know and want you.   
  7. Create an opportunity for kids to be led by someone.  You want to change the world, be an example in your neighborhood.
  8. Embrace the inner-child.  Do a spontaneous adventure and think, what would a 4yo like?  

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